One down, one to go

Tilly gets ready to blow her Birthday cake candles out

Tilly has enjoyed her 6th Birthday today. Tilly is the youngest of our six children and our oldest child Bert has his birthday tomorrow. I found out I was pregnant with Tilly, two days after I was forty, she was not planned, as our first child Bert was not planned either. This pregnancy though finally stopped my husband just thinking about getting a vasectomy and he got the job done, else I'm pretty sure we would not be celebrating our youngest child's birthday today. Lol

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Tilly and Henry watch the smoke from the blown out candles

 When we told the other children they would be having another sibling, our oldest asked if I could try and have the baby in his month of birth. Our other four children, two girls were born in June and the two other boys were born in October, so Bert thought it would be nice to have a sibling born alongside him in March. My due date was around the 7th April and with me so far always giving birth early, I thought he might be lucky. I went one better than born in his birthday month and gave birth to Tilly on Mother's Day the day before Bert's birthday. So when people ask how many years between our first to the sixth, it is easy to answer very accurately as nine years minus one day.  
It's hard to believe this July my husband, David and me have clocked up nineteen years together. I remember asking him about having children and he told me he always imagined having a couple. I told him I never imagined having children but neither had I not imagined not having children (Being the last of six children I was lucky that the rest of my siblings had already all bred, so no real pressure on me to keep the bloodline going). I did ask him though if I could not have children, would he want his own that bad ? Because I told him that I did not see myself wanting to go through fertility treatment, as I know how hard and painful it can be especially for a woman. I would rather adopt in that case, as being brought up by a stepfather from the age of three I felt love was just as important and in some cases more precious than a blood bond, but I did say though that if you found out you could not have children, your ideology might change, because I think until you are confronted with the fact you can not have your own birth children, you cannot truly answer that dilemma. I certainly never planned or imagined having six children. As they say, "Never say never."

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Tilly and Henry